Why is it that in inter-personal relationships people cannot be forthcoming and honest and, instead, play this coy game of silence and distance?
I've had problems with my ex, with whom I've maintained an intimate relationship yet he won't share other aspects of his life with me. I'm kept out.
I've also had a close friend some 500 miles distant with whom I've also maintained an intermittent intimate relationship and who I was able to talk with and freely share thoughts. Suddenly, well maybe not so suddenly, things went distant. Emails went unanswered. Texts went ignored. Finally, I get it out of him that he's now living with and in open relationship with a friend of his --- a person I've met and personally like --- but which he then characterized as his "closet friend." Huh? So he secretly is in a relationship while pretending to be living with his pal? Uh huh.
Ok. So why the silent treatment with me? Why is it people must keep others in the dark, questioning, wondering, and curious? All this ends up doing, I figure, is leading one to wonder, for example: "Ok what the hell did I do now?" "Did I piss this person off?" "What the fuck is going on?"
Is it just my own insatiable curiosity and need to know things? Or are most people just consumed by this psychological need to hold onto others, not let go, and only give them so much information?
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
I've had problems with my ex, with whom I've maintained an intimate relationship yet he won't share other aspects of his life with me. I'm kept out.
I've also had a close friend some 500 miles distant with whom I've also maintained an intermittent intimate relationship and who I was able to talk with and freely share thoughts. Suddenly, well maybe not so suddenly, things went distant. Emails went unanswered. Texts went ignored. Finally, I get it out of him that he's now living with and in open relationship with a friend of his --- a person I've met and personally like --- but which he then characterized as his "closet friend." Huh? So he secretly is in a relationship while pretending to be living with his pal? Uh huh.
Ok. So why the silent treatment with me? Why is it people must keep others in the dark, questioning, wondering, and curious? All this ends up doing, I figure, is leading one to wonder, for example: "Ok what the hell did I do now?" "Did I piss this person off?" "What the fuck is going on?"
Is it just my own insatiable curiosity and need to know things? Or are most people just consumed by this psychological need to hold onto others, not let go, and only give them so much information?
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
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